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| 古人常道﹐知足常樂。 我們真的可以做到知足常樂嗎﹖能做到的話﹐又是否一件好事﹖ 知足﹐或許真的可以常樂。但不知足和與別人比較﹐往往就是進步的原動力。
人的本能是自然地不知足的。
沒有工作時﹐只想找份工作做﹐不管好壞。
到有工作時﹐總希望能做些更喜歡的東西﹐亦會為工作上的不如意事﹐和上司紛爭等各樣事情﹐
覺得不愉快或沮喪﹐反而又會覺得不做了更好。 愛情亦是一樣。
沒有伴侶的時候﹐總是想有個人便好了。
到有的時候﹐又會想這不是自己真正想要的一段關係﹐好像以前沒有這些憂慮時﹐
反而來得輕鬆。 人真的可以做到知足常樂嗎﹖能做到的有幾人﹖ --- 人比人 以前八﹑九十年代很流行一句俗語﹐說 "人比人﹐比死人" 。
我也看到我的書櫃上有本書叫 "人比人" ﹐主要是教人不要太過執著於和別人比較。 其實不然。 我的生命中的經歷和經驗告訴我﹐我一直這麼在意和別人比較﹐是正確的。
如果不是在意和別人比較成績﹐我不會以優等生畢業。
如果不是和那麼多出色的其他電腦從事人員朋友比較﹐我今天可能還在 Intel 裡﹐
過著苦悶﹐低工資﹐沒有人生意義的在 Sacramento 生活。
我的經歷都在提醒我自己﹐和更優秀的人比較是正確的﹔
因為這樣和灣區的工程師比較﹐兩年半前我才下定決心離開 Intel﹐開始了新的工作道路﹔
因為這樣和現在的同事比較﹐我今天才能做到 Architect 的位置﹐在公司舉足輕重﹔
因為這樣和身邊的好朋友比較﹐我開始了置業計劃﹐預計幾月內購入真正屬於自己的房屋... 我想﹐也是因為我和身邊各方好友的愛情關係比較﹐我對自己的愛情感到不滿。 原來過得很快樂﹐只我一人未發覺。 | | |
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如果將香煙點給你代表深愛
莫非煙熄了會更震憾與期待
難道討好你等於鼓勵你去歧視我
一手將心摔下來
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| (Regarding the Think B4 You Speak campaign)
"Trying to regulate how people speak is a problematic endeavor. People sometimes try to assert that Information Wants To Be Free, when that isn't actually true, because information can't want things. It's a false corollary of something that is true, though - namely, that Communication Cannot Be Contained. A true corollary of this notion would be that People Will Say Things You Don't Like, And May Even Hate, a shard of schoolyard wisdom I previously thought well distributed." (Read Original)
If you think about it -- trying to regulate how people speak, is essentially censorship. (and American complains about China's censorship?) That's not the right way to go. The right way is to train yourself to not be hurt by anything anyone says.
We need to stop spoon-feeding the young generation everything and shelter them from every danger there is out there. (that's why younger and younger generations are more and more spoiled.)
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| As we grow, does it usually mean enabling and cranking up one's auto-protection mechanisms more and more?
We actually get afraid more and more easily when we're older. We get more afraid of death, of uncertainty. We are only perceived to be more capable because of "experience". We learn about different situations and different things in the world, and we learn better how to handle everything from our experience -- but the more we do, the more we're afraid of the now-fewer uncertain things.
I noticed that these days I have a harder time to get back to sleep when I'm woken up (whether it's midnight by a phone call or some external noise in the morning). It seems that I'm afraid of falling asleep due to the fear of being woken up again (harshly) -- my auto-protection mechanism kicking in. That probably has some to do with stress too..
We also have an auto-protection mechanism emotionally. A person can only be hurt so many times before he covers himself with thicker and thicker layers of protection. I can't say all my experience from relationships have been bad and in fact some were extremely nice; but seeing where I am today (as a single person), I think it's fair to say the overall net result had been negative. And I'm also sure I'm also just another common man going through life, so I should speak for most. As we grow older, it's harder and harder to have true feelings for someone else. When we're 15, it might take us 2 days from meeting someone to grow feelings for them. When we're 25 (at least for myself), it might take years to open up. While your true heart is still weak inside, it's covered by layers and layers of protection, one thicker than the other, not letting anyone get to it with any ease.
Um... I don't know where I'm really going with all that. (I always have this trouble with blogging) I'm going to stop here and let you all think about it...
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| Here is a graph of the traffic level on a typical web application vs time of the day.
Now here is a similar graph, for highways traffic, for a typical busy highway like 101 on peninsula, or 880 on the east bay, or 50 in sacramento.
Now let's look at what a web app with a good architecture and system design can handle. The red line is what the system will be designed to handle.
(Note that for many good systems, the red line is much higher than that, even.)
Notice that anything lower would be unacceptable as it would cause congestion and down time during peak hours and you run into all sorts of negative things -- including pissed off consumers, people less likely to spend money on your service, you get less profit in general. It's bad. Very bad.
Now, let's look at what a typical highway is designed to handle in terms of traffic level; that is the red line.
Now, I only have one question about this. WHY?
If only the government departments architects are more capable and design better systems -- people would be happier, less grumpy, be willing to spend more money on the society because they can actually GO OUT at peak hours and buy stuff (thus stimulate the economy), cause less accidents (which are because people are angry during traffic), and infinitely more positives.
Sigh. Why are computer scientists always better at everything?
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